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Thursday, May 30, 2013


Two footwear trends this season worry me: the 'tapered wedge' and the overlong shoe, which both seem to be walking death traps. So thank heavens for handbags and makeup
Heels by Christian Louboutin
My feet are killing me: Kylie Minogue sports a pair of Christian Louboutins. Photograph: Brian J Ritchie/Hotsauce/Rex Features
Shall we talk about shoes? Shall we? And then can we talk abouthandbags and stuff too? A few weeks ago, I mentioned idiotically high shoes and said they were over. I ever so slightly fibbed. There are still shoes for next season that will require mounting blocks and full medical insurance. There are two shoe trends that worry me – one is the "tapered wedge" (© Invisible Woman) and the other is the overlong toe. The "tapered wedge" is what I'm calling a shoe that, when you stand up in it, occupies about the same floor space as a postage stamp. If you're on sabbatical from Cirque du Soleil, you might even be able to walk in them. I can only recommend them if you invest in a pair of matching crutches – that way you'll be one step ahead (ahem).
Personally, I have never really got on with Louboutin – every pair I have ever tried have been excruciating and he will persist in designing idiotically high shoes for idiotically high prices. Although, to be fair to M Louboutin, I will admit to serially trying on his shoes just to see if my tiny hooves can be taught to tolerate them. I yearn for a red instep but I just don't have Louboutin feet. On my last visit to the shop I was almost seduced by a pair of foxy tartan jobbies had it not been for the price, and the height. So, in fact, I rest my case.
The second shoe trend – the overlong toe – is something you're likely to encounter in what initially seems to be a good idea: flat shoes or shoes with a kitten heel. I'm not a fan of kitten heels on the basis that they force you to walk like a duck and if the toes are overlong they trip you up at a ratio of approximately one trip to every three steps. They catch in, on, between or underneath almost anything. They are very nearly as much of a death trap as the tapered wedge and, frankly, my hips are fine just the way they are. I rather like the mid-height chunky heel, though, and not just because I already have a pair in my shoe stash from a couple of years ago. You know where you are with a chunky heel … safe.
Handbags, it seems, are much the same as they ever were and have evolved very little – except that this is where I could work in the metallic trend if I wished. I was a bit smitten with Burberry's leather bowling bag in "cowslip" and I'll be looking out for something similar with a smaller price tag. There's also the smart practicality of the "trapeze" shape, which seems an altogether sensible idea. Speaking of which, I had always thought clear Perspex bags were stupid until I saw a clever Charlotte Olympia one and they suddenly made sense. But I hate swapping bags – or I did until I started keeping stuff in little zipper bags, which makes switching that much easier and opens up all sorts of possibilities for chopping and changing.
And finally, there is good news on the makeup front, with minimal looks being much to the fore, which suits those of us with older skin very well indeed. Keep it looking as bare as you can – a tinted moisturiser is best. If you use powder then make sure you brush off the excess – a dusty face is not a good thing, ever. Cobalt blue is still The Colour but not, alas, a colour I am fond of wearing, and blue shadow is awfully hard to pull off without looking a bit Baby Jane. However, I would use it as a smudged line of blue beneath the eye in the same way Zandra Rhodes does. If you're looking for new lippy, I really liked the mixed-up pink and orange lip seen at MAC. It's a look I can easily adapt as long as I remember that less is more and will remain so for ever and ever now I'm past 50. Amen.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013


He met her in his home townA couple of years agoShe was beautiful inside and outHow could he just let her go

He had girls on the sideAnd he tried to hideBut somehow she knewStill she stayed, she stayed

But she would always cry every nightBut then he noticed a changeShe no longer had tears on her face

When a woman stops cryin'You best believe, she has a new planShe preparing for somethin' newSomethin' that doesn't include you

When a woman cease to cryShe's all ready to say goodbye, goodbye

When you stay out late, she don't call to askWhere you are and where you at?She just gives you this look when you come homeThat says, betta watch yo back

Fellas listen to yo girl when she tells youThat she's all cried outYou'd better prayThat she stays

If she no longer cries every nightIf she doesn't complain any moreShe's making her way to that front door

When a woman stops cryin'You best believe, she has a new planShe preparing for somethin' newSomethin' that doesn't include you

When a woman cease to cryShe's all ready to say

Just as long as she is arguin'Fussin' and complainin'As long as she will cry sometimesEverything is all right

Oh, but as soon as she is quietWhen you mess up, she's silentAnd has this certain smile upon her face

When a woman stops cryin'You best believe, she has a new planShe preparing for somethin' newSomethin' that doesn't include you

When a woman cease to cry

When a woman stops cryin'When a woman stops cryin'When a woman stops cryin' over you

Monday, May 27, 2013




Physical Activity Tips

Physical activity is a large part of maintaining an overall healthy lifestyle. We have compiled a list of physical activity tips to help you get active and stay active. An active lifestyle should consist of at least 30 minutes of moderate activity most days of the week. It is important to choose physical activities that you enjoy, and it is always worth trying something new.
  • If you don't have time for 30 minutes of activity at once, or if 30 minutes of continuous activity is too much for you, try breaking it up into three ten minute sessions of activity. Exercise should be continuous for at least a 10 minute period of time.
  • Ask your friends to join you for a walk, or you can even create a walking group and commit to a weekly time to help develop a group commitment. Your friends will probably thank you for it, everyone needs encouragement at times.
  • Walk up the stairs instead of taking the elevator or escalator.
  • Park you car at the far end of the parking lot and walk the extra distance.
  • Get off the bus or metro a few stops early to squeeze in a brisk walk.
  • Get your whole family involved in physical group activities. Its always fun to kick a soccer ball around and stretch out your legs.
  • Why not try doing a few stretches and simple exercises like push-ups and sit-ups while watching television.
  • Try something new. Yoga, pilates, dance classes and martial arts are a great way to stay active and have fun.
  • Swimming is a great exercise for your entire body.
  • If you are a golfer walk the course instead of using the golf cart.
  • Tennis and racket ball are fun sports that require a lot of movement. Kids and adults can enjoy these sports.
  • Use free weights to strengthen your arms. Even smaller 3 or 5 pound weights are a great way to get stength in your arms. Try lifting weights while you watch television.
  • Take a hike with friends. If you don't have any local hiking trails try exploring new neighborhoods or cities that are close by.
  • Don't forget to have fun!

Saturday, May 25, 2013



July 25, 2012
5 Bible Verses That Helped Me
Over the course of my life, there are many things that have influenced me…for both good and bad. If you are honest with yourself, you would have to admit that not everything that influences your life is good. Out of everything that has influenced my life, I find that the Bible has had the greatest impact on me more than anything else. The Bible is the very Word of God. It’s entire purpose is to draw one closer to God, our Creator. I may not be able to share Bible verses with you that will change your life or draw you closer to God, but I can share what God has done in my life as a result of His Word.

5 Bible Verses That Helped Me Get Closer To God

Revelation 21:8

But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.
You might wonder how a hell fire Bible verse helped me get closer to God. As I read the Bible, I find that is a book of truth, and sometimes the truth is hard. The hard truth I needed to hear as a 16 year old teen aged boy was that I was not saved, and that I needed to come to the “Truth”. I had lived a lie and told people I was saved, but deep down, I was lost. This lie in my heart came to be recognized under the powerful preaching of the Word of God. The very last verse the preacher quoted was this Bible verse. It rung in my heart until I broke down, went to an old-fashioned altar, called out to God, and was born into the family of God.
God used this verse to show me that I needed Him. I was saved under the preaching of this verse. My life has never been the same! God changed my life from the inside out. This verse shows the reality of the fact that all need to be saved and the only alternative is the Lake of Fire. Learn how you can have a new life in Christ here. Or you can hear my personal salvation testimony here.

John 14:15

If ye love me, keep my commandments.
Shortly after I was saved, God began to work on my heart to be a preacher of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I was 16 years old and I had just been saved a few months. I wanted to know God’s plan for my life, but I didn’t want to admit that His plan was for me to preach His Word. After seeing another young man answer God’s call, I began to see myself preaching. With this overwhelming thought of standing and preaching, I was scared and did not want to give up my plans for life.
After several months of resisting God, I finally opened my heart to God. It was this Bible verse that made me realize that if I truly loved my Saviour, then I would follow Him, no matter what. God used Pastor Brian McMath, of Valley Bible Baptist Church, to help me realize  I needed to follow God and preach His Word. On a Monday night teen meeting, I walked down an aisle and gave my life to be a preacher of the Gospel, all because I knew it was His command for me, and if I loved Him, I would follow His command.

2 Chronicles 7:14

If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
Every American will always remember the tragic day of 9/11, when muslim terrorists used our own vehicles to make weapons of war. I was still in high school when this happened. There was a time frame right after 9/11 when it seemed like churches were on fire for God. Sadly, many have gone back to the dead coldness they previously had. That was not the case for me.
I remember that very next Wednesday evening after 9/11, we had a guest preacher from the Christian Law Association preaching in our church. In light terms, he “tore it up”! I remember I had never heard someone preach with such conviction in all my life. He yelled, stomped his feet, clapped his hands, and shed tears…all for America. He preached for revival, and that message never left my heart. It was that message that stirred my heart to seek revival in the southwest of America.

Matthew 6:5-7

And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.
During my ministry training at GSBC, God allowed me to sit under the teaching of Pastor Tim Ruhl. He was a pastor that greatly influenced my life. I had the privilege to sit in several of the classes he taught. I remember gathering around him with the other preachers boys, like a football team does, praying, and yelling “PREACH!” when we were done with homiletic class. The preachers class was great, but his class on prayer was LIFE CHANGING.
We started the class by studying this Bible verse about prayer. He emphasized how Jesus Christ said “When thou prayest”. He taught the reality that Jesus expects us to pray. It’s not an option. Pastor Ruhl said, “Jesus didn’t ask IF you pray, He said, WHEN you pray“. He then went on for about an hour driving home the thought that we can talk about prayer and its power all day long, but if we don’t pray, we are still powerless. I never got over that one lesson in class. It helped shape my entire prayer life.

Daniel 10:16-19

And, behold, one like the similitude of the sons of men touched my lips: then I opened my mouth, and spake, and said unto him that stood before me, O my lord, by the vision my sorrows are turned upon me, and I have retained no strength. For how can the servant of this my lord talk with this my lord? for as for me, straightway there remained no strength in me, neither is there breath left in me. Then there came again and touched me one like the appearance of a man, and he strengthened me, And said, O man greatly beloved, fear not: peace be unto thee, be strong, yea, be strong. And when he had spoken unto me, I was strengthened, and said, Let my lord speak; for thou hast strengthened me.
In all the above Bible verses that helped me get closer to God, you find a constant idea. What is the idea? God used preachers in my life. Now comes this Bible verse that helped me. Did a preacher help me with this one.
This is one that God taught me when I was extremely discouraged. There is nothing a person can do that compares to a lesson from God. This verse taught me a big lesson from God.
As I mentioned, this verse helped me during a hard time in the ministry. Our church was struggling. Attendance was down. People were weary. Our building project had all but stopped. I felt like quitting. I was planning a way to quit our church when God led me to read His Word. Normally, I go to the book of Daniel to study prophecy. This time God took me there and He showed me this Bible verse.
The phrase jumped out at me like never before. It made me cry. I read it and read it and read it some more. I read it out loud. I got excited. God revived me and gave me a new zeal to stay in Taos, NM to see His work go forward. What was the phrase that helped me?
…be strong, yea, be strong.
Till this day, I have held this Bible verse in my heart. Every time things get tough, I tell myself, BE STRONG! Every time trials come I tell myself, BE STRONG! When it seems like everything is falling apart, I tell myself, BE STRONG!
I think you get the hint. This Bible verse has become a source of strength in my life. The great thing about it is the fact that God gave it to me. All the other verses mentioned are great, but this one is more than great. It was given to me by God Himself. He knew I was down and wanted to quit. He strengthened me.
I thank God that He can take His Holy Word and use it to help us in our everyday lives. He can draw us closer to Him. It’s all because His Word is alive. Have you let the Word of God influence you?

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Wednesday, May 22, 2013


12 Most Inspiring Rules for Career Success… from Steve Jobs

12 Most Inspiring Rules for Career Success… from Steve Jobs

I read an interesting post recently called “Steve Jobs and the 7 Rules for Success” by Carmine Gallo. The well-written post gives examples of how Jobs applied those seven rules to his successful entrepreneurial career.
I grew up down the street from Apple’s headquarters in Cupertino, never met Steve Jobs and don’t know exactly what he’d say to someone starting a career, but thought: What if Jobs presented 12 of these inspiring rules for success to young careerists?
Using quotes from some of Jobs’s interviews over the years as inspiration, then, here is what I imagine would be the “12 Most Inspiring Rules for Career Success… from Steve Jobs”.

1. Trust yourself… always

“We think the Mac will sell zillions, but we didn’t build the Mac for anybody else. We built it for ourselves. We were the group of people who were going to judge whether it was great or not.”
Almost anywhere you’ll run into those who will tell you what you’re doing isn’t the right way – because it isn’t the way they would do things. Regarding your career, listen to, acknowledge and consider the advice. In the end, however, make your own decisions. You are the judge of whether what you’re doing is right.

2. A great career is about commitment

“It takes a passionate commitment to really thoroughly understand something, chew it up, not just quickly swallow it. Most people don’t take the time to do that.”
Learn as much about your industry as you can. Go beyond your duties to learn how your job fits within your department… and how your department impacts the company. Take that knowledge and expand it into how your company competes in its industry, and then the future of the industry. A truly committed person can see how they fit in – and can impact – the bigger picture.

3. Don’t follow the status quo

“Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.”
Every company you work for will have its own culture… its own processes that have been settled upon. It’s rare that people, especially those who have worked at the company for an extended period of time, will think to make sweeping changes… or improvements. They just follow “the way it’s always been.”
Always avoid the “the way it’s always been” mentality! You’ll most often meet with resistance because people generally hate change. When you succeed, however, you’ll have established credibility as a leader – and have developed automatic supporters for your next innovations.

4. Interviews aren’t about you

“A lot of times, people don’t know what they want until you show it to them.”
In any job interview, realize the interview isn’t about you – it’s not about what you want, and what you hope to get out of the job.
Instead… write yourself into the role of the job. Show the person on the other side of the table, or looking at you via Skype, that you have the skills that will fulfill their needs. You’ve done your homework on their company and matched your abilities to what they’ve described in the online posting. Now… tell the recruiter the story of that job – with you in a key role – and make them see how they need to hire you rather than your job seeking competitors.

5. You’re a future leader – act like one

“I want to put a ding in the universe.”
Decide right now that you can be much more than what you are… right now. Sure, you’re the new kid on the block, and you don’t have as much experience as the executives around you. But you were hired above all the other applicants. You’re not a “rookie” or a coffee “go-fer”… so don’t think or act like one. You’re a future leader… a visionary! Start now.

6. Perfect your message

“The manual for… the most popular word-processing program is 400 pages thick. They’re not going to learn [from that] any more than they’re going to learn Morse code. That is what Macintosh is all about.”
Before you apply to your first, or another, job… perfect your message. Make it simple and effective. Craft, refine and practice presenting your “elevator pitch” until can deliver the message perfectly, every time. Ask your mentor, perhaps a college professor you trust, or even a resume professional to help make sure your resume is perfec. They will find something wrong… even after you think you’re done.
Then… practice, practice, practice.

7. Work to live – not the other way around

“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me … Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”
Many people start their career with an instant transition from “starving student” to where their paychecks make them feel like they’ve won the lottery every two weeks. But after a while it’s not enough. They want a newer car and a larger apartment. Then it’s a house… and a fancier vacation. So they keep working harder and longer to get the bigger paychecks. Most people, however, end up never satisfied because that financially secure horizon is always just that… on the horizon.
Which brings us to No. 8…

8. Pursue the right career for you

“People with passion can change the world for the better.”
To some, passion is easily identified. Others struggle to find their passions and then turn them into a career direction. Experiment… walk new paths… challenge yourself! That’s why most people have more than one career path in their life … to gain exposure to different environments and a variety of positions – to learn where your passions may take you. The key is… never settle. Keep experimenting until you find what truly gets you fired up to accomplish greatness.

9. “No” is your friend

“(Innovation) comes from saying no to 1,000 things… We’re always thinking about new markets we could enter, but it’s only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important.”
It’s so easy to reach too far… to feel like you have to say “Yes” and then get stretched too thin. Learn to say no to projects that may cause you to under-perform. Also learn to say no to friends who may need your “help” – over and over again. Say no to drama queens (and kings). And, when you know there is work or networking to do – just say no to Halo 18 and Angry Birds.
Stay focused on what will drive you, your career and your passions. Everything else gets a “No, thank you.”

10. Customers should be the focus of everything you do

“This is what customers pay us for–to sweat all these details so it’s easy and pleasant for them to use our computers.”
Develop a customer-focused, user-experience mindset. This important skill will carry over into every position – every passion – throughout your career. Not just the “real” customers who buy product; but also your “internal” customers – supervisors, mentors and colleagues are counting on your contribution. Say it out loud to yourself if it helps: “Your job is to create solutions to problems – for both internal and external customers”.

11. Always over deliver

“We made the buttons on the screen look so good you’ll want to lick them.”
Sometimes as you work on a project or a report, because you are so close to the data, some of the details are easy to over look. The recipients of your work – your boss, executives, partners or customers – will most definitely recognize the level of effort you (high or low) put into your work – and they will react accordingly. Take extra time to make sure that even the smallest details are as perfect as you can make them.

No matter your title, be humble

“You’re missing it. This is not a one-man show.”
That was the beginning of Jobs’s answer to a question in an interview with Businessweek when he returned to Apple in the late ‘90s: “There’s a lot of symbolism to your return. Is that going to be enough to reinvigorate the company with a sense of magic?”
In any position, in any size company, your work depends on others. This becomes ever truer the more established your career. A real leader always remembers that she is supported by others.
At the end of Gallo’s article that inspired this post, he closed with an anecdote. He said that Jobs was once approached by a Disney executive for advice on how to re-make the Disney store chain. Jobs’ answer is something I think he’d tell any young careerist who asked for advice on how to succeed in their career:

Friday, May 17, 2013


Three Reasons To Date A Married Man

by RONKE ALAO on MAY 20, 2012

Three Reasons To Date A Married Man
By: Ronke Alao
Women who knowingly date married men are often viewed with contempt. Why would anyone choose to be with a man who is already committed in marriage to another woman? Well, if you are single and considering dating a married man, I will give you 5 solid reasons why you should go ahead and do it.

1.            It’s Nobody’s Business Who You Date. 
  Yes, you are an adult and if you’d rather be another woman’s husband, that is your decision. You can live with it.  Hopefully, the wife of the man you are dating is a nutcase and when she finds out, things WILL turn violent. That’s cool too. If you go missing, it’s no body’s cup of tea, right? You are an adult. You can deal with the consequences. Whatever evil comes out of it is yours for the keeping. No one needs to feel sorry for you or empathize with you.
2.            It Feels Great Being Second-best
 It’s every woman’s dream to be second-best isn’t it? It doesn’t matter what he says, “I love you”, “I only care about you”, blah, blah, blah; you know he’s lying. You are pretty sure you’ll always be his second best. 
3.            It Feels Great To Be Used And ….Dumped
 It’s a given, you know you are been used. No need to “suspect” it or hope it’s not happening.  You can count on being used and dumped.

Okay, I probably have you confused by now but you get my drift.
There are never any “good” reasons to date a married man. I know sometimes, we women get suckered into it by sweet-talking snakes who camouflage as men but good never comes out of it.
When you are dating a married man, chances are he’s given you ‘genuine’ reasons why he’s cheating on his wife and how miserable she makes him feel. I don’t care whether he’s married to the devil’s cousin; he exchanged vows with her, not you. If he won’t respect that, he’s not worthy to have you as a friend not to talk of having you as his wife someday.
If he says he’s depressed, what are you trying to be to him? His anti-depressant?
 Don’t fool yourself into thinking you are helping him. He might be sick, but don’t sign up to be his doctor or therapist. Honey, you need to love yourself past that. You are beautiful and believe it or not, you deserve someone who will LOVE you. A man who is currently cheating on his wife doesn’t have the ability to love you the way you should be loved.
If he says he’s been disrespected or ridiculed by his wife, he’s only fooling you. He is the one who keeps disrespecting his wedding vows, his wife and his kids if he has any.  
If he whispers sweet nothings into your ear; “You make me feel alive, important and loved.” don’t believe a word of it.
If you make him feel that important, he would have divorced his wife and married you. Also, a man who cheats on his wife to feel important is sick. Sorry but I have to be frank with you.  Marriage is a commitment; it’s not all ice-cream and chocolate. We all have to move beyond wanting to feel good all the time to staying committed to our spouse and staying true to our vows. That is what love is.  Real love doesn’t engage in illicit sex. If he really loves you, how many of his family members has he introduced you to as his girlfriend, fiancĂ©e or whatever?
Whatever is done in the dark and in secret doesn’t speak love. No, it speaks shame.
I know sometimes, men who cheat on their wives sometimes paint this picture, like they are honorable and all that.
He tells you he is definitely going to divorce his wife. He is just waiting for the right time.
Perhaps he wants his daughter to graduate high school first or his wife has just being diagnosed with cancer and he thinks now is not the time. He makes you think he’s this caring guy who still cares about his terrible wife and his innocent kids right? It’s all BolognaSandwich (BS)!  The truth is he won’t leave his wife for you.  He loves having his wife and having you at the same time. He gets a weird fulfillment from that. He doesn’t want to not have his kids with him too.  
You can wait for him till you’re grey in the head, but he won’t leave his wife for you.
My dear, stop lying to yourself about how it’s okay and how “his marriage was a mistake in the first place  how  “ she never really loved him”.  If his marriage is hurting, let him deal with it. Don’t let him drag you into his mess. Stop stripping yourself of self-worth. You deserve more than a lying-cheat. God who created you thinks of you as beautiful and precious, don’t let someone use and toss you into the trash can.
You are a treasure and there is a handsome, Prince Charming somewhere who needs to find you. But he won’t as long as you keep hiding behind the cheater and fake prince charming.
What Do You Think?