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Monday, June 24, 2013


Lionel Messi, was born in June 24, 1987 in Argentina. He is a footballer who plays as a forward  for La Liga club FC Barcelona , also serves as the captain of his country's national team. With four Balloon D'or(2009,2010,2011,2012) can be officially considered the best player in the world, despite so many individual virtues, he is  also a remarkable team player.

First, before I share with you what I intended to share , as you know today is his  birthday I like to take this opportunity to wish Lionel Mess a best and joyful birthday.

Second, there are few lessons or call it inspiration we can from his life and career ( as posted on the net by Kdk4Christ).
At age ten , Messi faced a major threat to his future footballing career- a growth hormone deficiency. This would limit his ability to cope with the physical demands of football.

Messi needed growth hormones or he would have stopped growing at 4ft 7in. His father’s health insurance was limited and couldn’t cover the expensive treatment.

The story changed when Barcelona offered to pay for the hormone treatment in return for Messi signing for them aged just 13. Today, Messi is scoring, Barca is winning and both Messi and Barca are happy and successful.

Few lessons.
1. Employers need to see the gold in their staff. In that physically- slow boy with health challenges was a star of the future. Invest in your staff

2. Your health challenge could seem to be a huge problem, but help is on its way.

3. Nothing limits you. Till date, Messi is relatively smaller than his mates, could be weak but he is still playing excellent footbal. You have no excuse.

4. God compensates for your weaknesses. Messi is short. As a result he has a low center of gravity. This makes it difficult for him to fall down easily. Messi has short legs, but they are fast too.

5 Finally, don’t make judgement based on today, consider the future. While Messi was playing as a kid, he looked 2 years younger than his mates. If Barca had judged him based on that, they would have lost gold.

Saturday, June 22, 2013


1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always persevere.

Thursday, June 20, 2013

THREE WORK MINDSETS: Which one suits you?


People are willing to follow you, and find working with you a fun and rewarding experience. You have an unflattering  confidence in your ability to lead, and are likely to be an extrovert.

What you're best at
Typically charismatic, leaders are competent and have good interpersonal skills, are able to inspire others and are ambitious. Their mindset is more about outputs and financial reward for the effort expanded. Reacher says:'You get a kick out of  watching others grow and do well, and love nurturing.

What to remember
Keenan says; ' leaders like to take credit for achievements, but need to remember and acknowledge other people's cotributions .' Guttridge adds: 'You have to be able to delegate and trust others. You are more comfortable with big-picture thinking rather than focusing on detail, and  think more long- term rather than day -to -day.' You should guard against narcissistic traits.


Flexible, committed and co-oparative, you really thrive when you're part of a team, doing what you're best at, and you are willing to pitch in and work beyond expectations to help others too.

What you're best at
Keenan explains: 'Employees' mindsets are about contributing  to the team's output and success. They co-oparate and able to communicate constructively, they are good listeners and share things openly  and willingly, and they tend to be flexible in their approach and show commitment to the team and its ultimate goal.'

What to remember
Good employees often focus on the detail rather than the on wider picture, so remember not to be afraid to 'think big' at times too you can lose motivation easily if you don't feel appreciated, so work on internal validation  as well as  relying on praise  from others. And  don't forget that if you  don't communicate , your work is bound to suffer.

2.Self employed

You are willing to go it alone and take  calculated risks. You may have a conviction  about your business to the exclusion of everything else, and driven by passion.

What you're best at
Keenan says: ' Self - employed individuals are creative, determined, confident and open - minded, with strong people skills and work ethic to die for. Their mindset is about the love of the project.

What to remember
You tend to be difficult to manage and are more able to work on your own. You need to be flexible to cope with uncertainty, and good at recognizing opportunities. Guttridge adds:  'You need to balance big -picture  and long long- term thinking with detail and short -term, and be very good with people.' Reacher says: 'Being self-employed can be stressful, as you're responsible for your success, so excelling under pressure is essential. You'll need to be naturally driven and disciplined, as you're accountable only to yourself.'

Roberts Genevieve, July  2013, 'Are you sure you want to be the boss?', PSYCHOLOGIES MAGAZINE, NO.94,pg74.

Tuesday, June 18, 2013



Have a passion and you will make money. Wanting to be rich does not generate wealth. Yes, some entrepreneurs create huge business empires and become vastly rich, but even when they make their millions they carry on working regardless. They are not driven by money, but the love of what they do. They are often gripped by an almost desperate determination to make their mark and do something better.

Think about it. If you don't genuinely enjoy or even love what you do, how will you motivate yourself? If you have to write a proposal, are you going to be thinking "oh no, not that damn document!" Or " I can't wait to tell the world about my idea!"? If you need  to give a pitch about your business, will you be scrabbling around  for ways to pad out your presentation or bubbling over with too many ideas?

True entrepreneurs have discovered that if they have  a passion and manage to communicate it to their customers, the money comes almost as an afterthought.  Business people who do it purely for the money are not true entrepreneurs. Greed is not the same as passion, and without that passion and enthusiasm  to deliver something new or better, these people run out of energy and flee back to comfortable jobs  working for someone else.

Don't let that be you. Whatever you choose  to do in your  business, make sure you can get excited about it. If you don't, how can you expect your customer to do so?

Reference: Rob Yeung,(2011), The New Rules of Entrepreneurship, Marshal Cavendish Business,United Kingdom.

Saturday, June 15, 2013


Bible Verses About Family - Read verses that give the biblical perspective on subjects relating to families, such as love, family relationships, family problems, family values, children, strength, and death. Read verses from the Holy Bible about family in relation to God, Jesus Christ, and the Christian faith.

Exodus 20:12

"Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you.

Proverbs 1:8

Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching.

Joshua 24:15

But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD."

Proverbs 11:29

He who brings trouble on his family will inherit only wind, and the fool will be servant to the wise. 

Proverbs 31:15-17

She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.  She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.  She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.

Thursday, June 13, 2013




Why do girls act like they dont like you when they do?

This teller at the bank started flirting with me, like clearly flirting with me. Not friendly teller talk. I can tell the difference. I was def attracted she had a nice body, she was cute and smart. But, she had an ego about her, and underlining "Im the ish attitude". I only got her as my teller twice. Every other time I had been talking with and admittedly flirting with other tellers there. I think she overheard my conversations.

anyways skip to yesterday, shes my teller again. This time...She not very outgoing, shes not being flirtacious, shes practically ignoring me, being very I could care less and not being outgoing at all. I recognized this as "game playing" and I ignored her, just like she was ignoring me, walked right out. Skip to today...She was eyeballing me when I walked in to the bank. Thank god I didnt get her as my teller because that would have been awkward although I would have been able to handle it. Why do girls play like this?
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    • Dude, tell me about it! They constantly act different and one day like you and the next they don't. This is because she is trying to play hard to get. Girls think a guy likes them more if he thinks he can't get her which is true. They will do stuff like take ages to reply to texts to make you wonder what they are doing etc. Try and play hard to get yourself: take about 30 minutes to reply to texts, and only flirt with her occasionally. She will wonder what's happening and she will like you even more! Good luck mate.
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    • she likes you and she got jealous cuz you were flirting with other tellers the staring part was a indication that she still likes you. why girls do this ? cuz they also want to have a sense that they're already in a relationship with you. if you don't really like this girl then tell her or she'll continue this obsessive behavior with you. if you do really like her then ask her out and stop making her feel insecure
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    • It's possible that she is at odds with her own feelings. One side wants to project a confident strong desirable woman and the other is vulnerable, scared, and at the end of the day just wants someone to like/love her. Both genders display this behavior, it's natural. Some are just better at dealing with it.
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    • She doing that bcus ur flirting with other women and she thinks that if u guys go out u might do that with & infront of her so thats why her attitude changed but she still might like u tho just talk to her and ask her straight up hope this helps god bless!
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    • girls flirt at first to see if you like them. then ignore you because they want to see if you would still be interested. she is looking for you to chase her.
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    • Same reason why guys do it!
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    • Maybe she had a thing for you then she over-heard one of your conversation with the other tellers and that made her find you a bit jerkish! Maybe you could ask her if she wants to go out for something to eat maybe give her your mobile number or ask for hers? Make it obvious you want something with her if you do. If not and you just want to flirt then flirt with the others too but don't be upset when she ignores you!

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    • First time: she was being flirtatious
      Second time: she's a bit jealous because after over hearing how you are just a big flirt
      Third time: she probably felt like a fool for day dreaming about you only to find you are just a player
      Fourth time: she hates you now for messing with her emotions so she probably figure if she's mean you will get the message and not come back (or may be apologize and ask her out)
      Bottom line she's a woman and we women tends to read a bit more into simple flirt than men.


      A woman whose been there done that lol
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Tuesday, June 11, 2013


Drama  queen is the person who tends to overreact to minor incident, or someone who turns something unimportant into a major deal. Drama queen is gender neutral, drama queens come in all forms include women and men of all ages.

Drama queens are emotional dysfunction and it's their duty and pleasure to make life harder for everyone around them.

The following are some of the charecteristics of a drama queen;

  • Always place blame on others rather than face the reality 
  • Jealous and envy for others
  • Notoriously, self centered, and self absorbed 
  • Does not take personal criticism very well
  • Attention seeker
  • They can't be trusted with sensitive information 
  • Complainer 
  • Manipulator 

What causes the drama? 

Childhood trauma might be a trigger in some cases. Psychiatrist Bruce Perry of the Child­Trauma Academy in Houston has found that children who experience trauma—from abuse to natural disasters—undergo changes in brain chemistry affecting regions that make them moody, oversensitive to stimulation, and unable to accurately assess certain social and environmental cues.

Childhood neglect could also be a factor, experts in the field believe. If parents or guardians habitually ignore, discount or dismiss a child’s thoughts, feelings and experiences, the child may decide that dramatic presentations—from dressing provocatively to telling stories of wild adventures or crises—are necessary to get attention.

Genes could contribute as well. Excessive behavior runs in families, according to a 2004 study led by psychiatrist John Gunderson of Harvard Medical School. Gunderson’s team found that 27 percent of the relatives of BPD patients displayed aspects of the disorder’s problematic relationship style as compared with just 17 percent of the relatives of people with other personality disorders. Shared environmental factors—say, particular parenting practices that a child learns—could play a role in this pattern, although Gunderson theorizes that as yet undiscovered genetic variations may also predispose some family members to difficulties with attachment and mood regulation.

It's very difficult to live or work, even to be a friend of a drama queen. The important thing you need to know it's difficult to change a drama queen without a professional help because they are sick and needs to grow up.

They will try to do anything to get what they want ,their philosophy is THERE IS NO BAD ATTENTION. That's why drama queens are typically used to ba have in a loud or disruptive manner anytime something is not their liking.

The best way to react to a drama queen, is to ignore her and walk away if they attack you verbally, they hate to be ignored, if they don't get the attention they want they will move on to someone else.

It's also good to let them know the truth that you consider her as a sick person, and you can't associate  with sick people unless she is ready for a therapy, because she doesn't need others's sympathy but a the advice of a mental health professional.

Monday, June 10, 2013


Plan D by Sherri Shepherd


Sherri Shepherd was diagnosed with diabetes four years ago, but she's living life to the fullest. The View host discusses her diet and weight loss plan in her new book, Plan D, and how she hasn't let the disease slow her down.
Sherri Shepherd wants you to knowthat having diabetes doesn't have to stop you; in fact, being diagnosed with the disease has actually been a blessing in disguise for the talk show host.
Despite being prediabetic and having an extensive family history of the disease, Sherri lived in denial for years and continued to eat an unhealthy diet until she had a wake-up call shortly after her diagnosis
"It was just realizing that the way I was living my life, I would not be here for my son," she explained to SheKnows. "It was the realization that Jeffrey might walk down the aisle with his wife and there'd be a rose in a chair where his mother was supposed to be."
Being diagnosed inspired her to change her life and take action. She jokes that her book Plan D is "diabetes for dummies" and outlines a three-step process for healthy eating and living with the disease.
"I made diabetes my friend instead of looking at it like the enemy."
"People with diabetes think they can just eat steamed broccoli," she says, adding that her current favorites are oatmeal, salmon, quinoa, almonds and even occasionally dark chocolate.
Sherri also began exercising for the first time in her life and lost a lot of weight while gaining a new perspective. "I weighed 197 pounds when I started The View and I went down to 151 pounds," she shares. "I started going to a trainer, and she taught me how to do stuff at home. She also taught me how to incorporate my son into my exercise routine. It's moving and doing things you like. I love to dance and I take salsa classes."
Today, Sherri is no longer taking medication and is keeping her type 2 diabetes in check through her diet and exercise. She wants people to know that you can live life to the fullest despite having the disease. "I made diabetes my friend instead of looking at it like the enemy," Sherri says. "If you're diabetic, you can turn a negative into a positive."
For more from Sherri, check out her book, in stores now.

More on diabetes

Thursday, June 6, 2013


Should You Take A Job 'Beneath' You?

diner waitress carrying plates of foodStatistics show that a lot of people have been employed much longer than they would have ever expected. Perhaps your field has downsized so much that there aren't that many open positions. No matter why you've been unemployed so long, at some point, desperation begins to set in, and you wonder if you should try to get a job you would have thought was "beneath you," just to get back into the workforce and earning a paycheck.

Whether or not you should take a step down in your expectations depends on a lot of factors, and is a very personal decision that you should think carefully about. Here are some questions to consider if you are thinking about taking a job that you are overqualified for:

How long can you afford to search for a position without earning income?
It would be foolish to make this list without starting with the obvious factor: You need to earn money to pay your bills. Be strategic about your expenses and be sure to carefully cut everything that you can from your budget while you look for work. The more you can stretch your unemployment benefits and/or your savings, the more flexibility you will have to wait for the best job for you.

Can you expect there to be positions in your field at your level?
You may be in the category of job seekers who are not likely to find positions at all because those jobs simply don't fit the current economy. In that case, it makes a lot of sense to seek a job that may be a step or two "down" in a related field in order to get into a new industry. Scrutinize your past field. If no one is getting jobs, and the companies who used to hire people like you are going out of business, assume it is very reasonable to take step back in order to build a new career.

Will you be able to practice necessary skills in the new job?
Most jobs have a whole list of transferable skills associated with them. For example, you can learn and improve your communication skills, teamwork abilities, how you perform under pressure, and management skills in many different positions. If there's a skill you know you could improve, taking a job that you're a little overqualified to do can help you hone those key skills that may help you get a better job next time.

Is there opportunity for growth?
Can you prove yourself and expect to be promoted in the next six months to a year? Does the company tend to promote from within? Check their LinkedIn company page to see if people tend to leave the company or take promotions there. If your research suggests that apromotion would be possible, your risk may be a little less than it would otherwise be in taking a job that is a step down. You can also advocate for your promotion if you do your job well and remind upper management that you're even more qualified for the higher-level job than other candidates because of how you are coming up the ranks.

How much will the lower salary throw off your prospects and future earning potential?
Some companies are very particular about asking for your salary history when hiring you, so taking a lower-paying job could hurt you if you apply later for a more appropriate position. Be aware that you could open yourself up to questions about your salary later down the road, and you could have a problem clawing your way back into your industry if that's your plan.

Ideally, it's best to take a job that clearly keeps you involved in the work you eventually want to do. Think about how you will explain this job during a future interview. If it's too difficult to decide what you might say, realize that you are taking a risk. Either you'll need to leave the job and experience off of your work history (which could still show up in a background check) or you'll need to discuss it.

Will you be miserable?
If you are the type of person who will resent every minute doing work you think is beneath you and you will not be able to identify any redeeming features of the job, do not take such a position. You'll earn more enemies than referrals and this step will hurt, rather than help, your prospects.

All of these questions assume that someone is ready, willing and able to offer you a job you are overqualified to do, but do not assume that most employers welcome the thought of hiring someone overqualified for the job. In fact, they are unlikely to want to take the risk that you will bolt the minute something better comes along. However, if you do have such an opportunity, and you carefully evaluate the options, make the choice that is best for you and make the best of it.

More from Keppie Careers:
How To Grow Your Network To Get A Job
Questions To Ask Before You Take A Job
What Not To Ask In An Interview 

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

KATE MIDDLETON, the humble princess

In 2011, Kate Middleton wowed to the world when she married Prince William. She went from being a commoner to being a celebrated new royal and fashion icon. She is admired for her elegant conservatism and is gaining a reputation as sensible, levelheaded, and down-to- earth. She is the first royal bride to have earned a college degree, and her subjects love her.

Middleton is winning rave reviews for her ladylike intelligence, her elegant sense of style, her charming personality, and her easy connection with people from all walks of  life. Whatever she wears becomes the latest style .

This brand is making waves across the world, and it will be fun to watch. Middleton grow and evolve as she settles into her royal role.

Reference: Chritton  Susan(2012), Personal Branding for Dummies,Wiley and Sons,Canada.

Saturday, June 1, 2013



Oprah Gives Inspirational Commencement Speech At Harvard

Oprah Receives Honarary Doctorate from Harvard 7

Just call her Dr. Winfrey (again)!

What do you give someone who has their own network? Yesterday, Oprah spent the day in Cambridge, Massachusetts where she was given an honorary Doctor of Laws degree by the prestigious Harvard University during their 362nd commencement ceremony. For the backwoods Mississippi born and bred Lady O, the honor was a hard pill to swallow, but during her moving commencement speech, she dropped some wisdom that she’s learned along the way in building her own empire from the ground up as well as what she’s learned from the feeling of failure while attempting to create her OWN Network.
Peep a few of the gems from her speech below:

On what she’s learned from failure
I am even prouder to share a fundamental truth you might not have learned even as graduates of Harvard. It doesn’t matter how far you might rise, at some point you are bound to stumble. If you are constantly doing what we do, raising the bar, If you are constantly pushing yourself higher, the law of average predicts that you will at some point fall. When you do, remember this: there is no such thing as failure. Failure is just life trying to move us in another direction. When you are down there in the hole, it looks like failure.

So this past year, I had to spoon feed those words to myself. When you are down in the hole, it’s really okay to feel bad for a little while. Give yourself time to mourn what you think you may have lost, but then learn from every mistake. Every encounter and particularly your mistakes are there to teach you and force you to be more of who you are.
Then, figure out what is the next right move. The key to life is to develop an internal moral emotional GPS that can tell you which way to go.

On creating your story

The challenge of life, I have found, is to build a resume that doesn’t simply tell a story about what you want to be, but its a story about who you want to be. It doesn’t just tell a story about what you want to be but why. A story that’s not just a collection of titles, and positions, but a story that’s really about your purpose. When you inevitably stumble and find yourself stuck in a hole, that is the story that will get you out. What is your true calling, what is your dharma, your true purpose.

Maya Angelou always says… When you Learn, Teach. When you Get, Give. That is what makes your story great.
No matter what challenges or encounters you face, you will find true success and happiness if you have only one goal and that is this, to fulfill the highest most truthful expression of yourself as a human being. You want to max out your humanity by using your energy to lift yourself up, your family, and the people around you.
Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go do that. The world needs people who have come alive.

From time to time, you may stumble, fall, you will for sure have questions and doubts about your path but I know this, if you are willing to listen and to be guided by that still small voice that is the GPS within yourself to find out what makes you come alive, you will be more than okay. You will be happy, you will be successful, and you will make a difference in the world.

Other great quotes from her speech
“Even though this is the college where Facebook was born, my hope is that you will try and go out and have more face-to-face conversations with people you disagree with.”

“I have to say the single most important lesson I learned in 25 years is there’s a common denominator in our experience. We want to be validated. We want to be understood.”
“To fulfill the highest, most truthful expression of yourself as a human being, you want to max out your humanity.”
“Lean in to use your voice, lean in to make change where it needs to be made, and lean in to invest your heart and your soul in ideas and people.”
Leave it to O to drop some great gems!  She also detailed her story of how she ultimately decided she wanted to be a journalist and make a difference in the world.
Watch her motivating and inspirational commencement speech below:

Oprah Receives Honarary Doctorate from Harvard
Oprah Receives Honarary Doctorate from Harvard 8
Oprah Receives Honarary Doctorate from Harvard 5

Oprah also has an honorary doctorate from Duke University that she received in 2009.
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