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Monday, July 29, 2013

Why Women Don't Like Mummy's Boys





Mummy's Boys

Why Women Don't Like Mummy's Boys










Source: www. uk.askmen.com

November 24,2010 by Eloise Houarno.
If a woman shares a man's bed, she probably won't settle to be second fiddle in his life.
Women always like hearing a potential partner speaking about his mother in a caring and respectful manner. In fact, men who have a good relationship with their mothers tend to be more understanding and respectful toward women, and we ladies know that.

But a man who talks a little too much about his mother will raise a "mummy's boy" flag in any woman's mind. It's not hard to understand why women don't like mummy's boys.
Here are some of the reasons why women don't like mummy's boys and solutions to how a man can keep both his mother and lover happy.

Women like men

Just as men fantasise about nurses or French maids, women fantasiseabout firemen and policemen -- men that display strength, power and masculinity.
If a sexy fireman had to check with his mother every time he took off his clothes for a girl, his sex appeal would definitely fade. Women generally like strong men who aren't intimidated or easily influenced by other people, and that's a big reason why women don't like mummy's boys.
The thing is, mummy's boys often fulfill their mother's every wish, especially the most unreasonable ones -- and that's where the problems start.
If a man lives out his mother's every wish, chances are that he will not make decisions with his significant other without his mother's approval. It's hard enough to share decisions as a couple, so it is rare that a woman will tolerate a third person interfering in her relationship with her man. When a girl is 12 years old and her boyfriend can't go out because his mother doesn't approve, it's OK because he's still a child. When that boy becomes a man and his mother still rules his life, however, most women aren't that understanding.

Women want to be No. 1

If a woman shares a man's bed, she probably won't settle to be second fiddle in his life.
It is normal and expected that a man will treat his mother on her birthday,Mother's Day or on any other celebration. But if a man always puts his mother before his girlfriend, no matter what the occasion, chances are his girlfriend will end up resenting him and leave him. The main reason why women don't like mummy's boys is because competing with the woman who gave birth to him just isn't an option.
When a mother-in-law is in the picture too much, it can make a woman feel like she isn't doing a good job at keeping her man happy since he still has another "woman" doting on him. Women like to know they're making their men happy. They don't want to hear that they can't cook or can't do things as well as their lovers' mother.





Your woman is not your maid

In the 21st century, more and more couples share domestic tasks such as laundry, cooking and cleaning. Although women don't necessarily expect all men to be chefs or Mr. Clean, they do expect them to help out. The problem is that a mummy's boy is often used to his mum cooking his meals or doing his laundry for him.
It is true that some mothers are to blame for pandering to their son's every need, but unfortunately women don't like to date men who need to be served and can't take care of themselves.
Mummy's boys are so used to being treated with unconditional love that they rarely think they're wrong. Although your mum may no longer criticise the way you dress, eat, speak, or behave, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're perfect and you don't need to mind your manners and polish your habits. For example, your mother may insist that you relax at the dinner table while she's putting away the dishes, but your girlfriend may not be as eager to do the dishes on her own.

No privacy

Another thing women dislike about mummy's boys is the fact that they sometimes make the mistake of telling their mothers certain private things. After all, no woman wants to date Ray from Everybody Loves Raymond. Often, women expect men to have difficulties talking about intimate issues, so when a woman finds out her man has been speaking to his mother about their problems, she feels betrayed.
One of my friends once received a gift certificate for a fine lingerie store from her mother-in-law. She thought it was a thoughtful gesture until her mother-in-law added "And don't buy plain cotton underwear. Josh just doesn't like them."
She felt humiliated about the fact that her boyfriend had shared such intimate details about her with his mother and hurt that he was unable to communicate his preference directly to her.
You may not talk about your girlfriend's lingerie with your mother, but there are some issues you might want to keep between you and your special lady.
Of course, a man should never be asked to choose between the woman who raised him and the woman who shags him. Fortunately, if you've been cursed with the mummy's boy syndrome, there are ways for you to show equal love and respect to your lover and mother.



She might be a saint, but it doesn't mean that she can't be unreasonable and manipulative.

Stand up to your mother

The first thing a man can do to avoid being ditched for being a mummy's boy is create a new relationship with his mother as an adult. If you've ever been called a mama's boy, chances are your mother is too intrusive and you need to learn how to say no to her.
She might be a saint, but it doesn't mean that she can't be unreasonable and manipulative. Your mother already knows you love her and would do anything for her, and that is precisely the problem. She knows you can't say no.
So, once in a while, even through her tears and attempts at emotional blackmail, let your mother know how good your girlfriend is to you and how important it is that she remains part of your life.
It's OK to tell your mother when you are looking forward to that romantic weekend you have planned for you and your girlfriend. It is also OK to tell her that she doesn't need to make sandwiches for the road.

Remember your girlfriend

This is the most important point in order to maintain a good relationshipwith your girlfriend: Every time you cancel plans with your girlfriend for your mother, make sure you rectify the situation later on (if there is a later on).
Never let your girlfriend feel that she comes second and that your mother always has the last word. If your girlfriend witnesses you giving in to your mother's unreasonable requests, make sure that she also witnesses you saying no to your mother.

don't be a mama's boy

If you're a mummy's boy, chances are your mother will think that no other woman will ever be good enough for you. So when your mother tells you that she will not break your heart but your lover will, remember that if you love and respect both the women in your life fairly, your lover will always want to play nurse with you, and your mother will never stop baking you cookies.

Friday, July 26, 2013

BOB MARLEY QUOTE 'LOVE'



“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

Bob Marley

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

WHY ZOOS ARE GOOD FOR CHILDREN?

Zoo means a zoological park, a place where different kinds of animals  are kept for study and people's  enjoyment especially children. Visiting a zoo is a good experience, Last weekend I went to visit Antwerp zoo with my family in Belgium, so I like to share with you why and how it's important to take children to the zoo.


 The entrance of Antwerp Zoo
  • Zoo offers an opportunity  to the kids to see the wild animals and learn about  and recognize them by sight, sound and animals names.

  • Zoo is a place of entertainment and education, at the zoo children can learn about nature, the environment endangered species, and conservation. 

  • The children can learn  the good treatment of animals, by observing how the zoo keepers take care of the animals.




So a zoo is a good place for children to learn many things about animals, especially children who are living in the cities, if you have no time to take them in the middle of th jungle, the zoo is there for all of you.
     





































IT'S NOT HOW GOOD YOU ARE, IT'S HOW GOOD YOU WANT TO BE.


It's not how good you are, It's how good you want to be. It's the book that I'm reading this week, for the record  this book is small, easy to understand and it doesn't cost a fortune, you can  just get it  by only $ 8.95.


Whether you are a school leaver, self employed or a managing director, this book is invaluable for everyone who aspires to succeed.



Now I like to show you the opening words of the book.



Here are the two messages I want to share with you today from the book;



DO NOT SEEK PRAISE. SEEK CRITICISM (pg. 26)

It is quite easy to get approval if we ask enough people, or if we ask  those who are likely to tell us what we want to hear.


The likelihood is that they will say nice things rather than to be critical. Also, we tend to edit out the  bad so that we hear only what we want to hear.



So if you have produced a pleasantly acceptable piece of work, you will have proved to yourself that it's good simply because others have said so.



It is probably ok. But then it's not great either.



If, instead of seeking approval, you ask, 'What's wrong with it? How can I make it better?', you are more likely to get a truthful critical answer. You may even get an improvement on your idea.



And you are still in a position to reject the criticism if you think it is wrong.


DON'T LOOK FOR THE NEXT OPPORTUNITY. THE ONE YOU HAVE IN HAND IS THE OPPORTUNITY.



We are always waiting for the perfect brief  from the perfect client.



It almost never happens.


You're probably working on a job or a project right now and saying , 'This is boring, let's just deal with it and get it over with. We'll make next one good.'


Whatever is on your desk right now, that's the one. Make best you possibly can.


It may not be great, but at least you'll have the satisfaction  of knowing you did the best you possibly could, and you may learn something from it.


And you're always free to do an alternative that does satisfy your creative standards.


Good briefs don't just come along.


That's true, even if you've earned a reputation for doing good work (although that helps).



Successful solutions are often made by people rebelling against bad briefs.



I have found this book very interesting and educative. Get your copy from Amazon.com. What do you think?





Bibliography

Arden, Paul.(2003) 'It's Not How Good You Are, It's How Good You Want To Be'. Phaidon Press Limited, London.





Tuesday, July 23, 2013

CRAB MENTALITY


Monday, January 14, 2013

CRAB MENTALITY "IF I CAN'T HAVE IT,NEITHER CAN YOU."

The above title is a message I like to share with you today. May be you have heard about it , or may be not. The main thing to be learned is how to deal with crab mentality.


Crab mentality is a popular phrase in Philippines, the concept refers to an interesting phenomenon which occurs in a bucket of  live crabs, if one crab attempts to escape the other crabs will pull it back down rather than  allowing it to get free.

The above phenomenon is synonym to people who don't want others to achieve more than what they have achieved in their lives. They will do whatever it takes to pull you down; especially when s/he sees that you have all the potentials to pursue and achieve your dreams.

Crab mentality can occur out of jealous, conspiracy or competitive feelings; do you remember in the Bible when Cain killed Abel? That was the first incident of crab mentality to  be recorded. It is human nature for some to envy, or for some to back stab someone in order to acquire others' position, or prevent them to be happy or successful.
Crab people may try to discourage you every way they can, with anger, verbal attacks, talking behind your back, spreading false information about you just to ruin your reputation  etc, so that you can loose your confidence and stop pursuing your dreams.

Now, know that crab people always want to be the best not others, to deal with people, first you have to understand that we cannot avoid this kind of people for they are everywhere .

So learn the following things;

  • Recognize the crab  around you is very important,  it's better to end the relationship with crab people , but what if that crab person is a family member , a relative or your boss. Accept the reality who they are, don't waste you time trying to change them, focus on your achievements, and not on their negativities. "When you climb to the top of the obstacle that is blocking your view, you are able to look at your situation from a different perspective" Lucy  MacDonald.


  • Don't share your plan, success stories or things like that with crab people. Try to associate with positive minded people , who work hard and support others.


  • Keep fighting; this is very important, don't let any one discourage you, don't loose your confidence and stay focused, if you want to get to the top keep fighting. "Rise above hate , conquer your fear , and be a star."John Cena


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Friday, July 5, 2013

CHILDREN QUOTES





I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be. 
Whitney Houston



Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow.

Always be nice to your children because they are the ones who will choose your rest home.




Look at children. Of course they may quarrel, but generally speaking they do not harbor ill feelings as much or as long as adults do. Most adults have the advantage of education over children, but what is the use of an education if they show a big smile while hiding negative feelings deep inside? Children don’t usually act in such a manner. If they feel angry with someone, they express it, and then it is finished. They can still play with that person the following day.
Dalai Lama XIV





Wednesday, July 3, 2013

QUOTE WORTHY


I BELIEVE IT'S TIME THAT WOMEN TRULY OWNED THEIR SUPERPOWERS AND USED THEIR BEAUTY AND STRENGTH TO CHANGE THE WORLD AROUND THEM.





Monday, July 1, 2013

WORK FROM HOME MOM




I have been working from home due to some reasons, but with full access to the Internet  and freelancing jobs I can use my computer just few hours each day, not only to generate some income but also to develop my career. Furthermore I use my spare time  for blogging sharing my knowledge to the world .

Working at home require maximum discipline, but it's also wonderful and gives me freedom being my own boss, I can take my computer to a park or shopping mall and work from there, every time I feel to get out of the house.

The other thing is work from home gives the opportunity to be there for my girls and still making some income and career development at the same time, and enjoy the life without stress.


My home office
My message today is that, the opportunity you have in your hand might be the right opportunity ,it may not be great, but at least you'll have the  sastification of knowing you did the best you possibly could, and you may learn something from it. And you're always free to do alternative that does satisfy your creative standards.